Anger is an issue that many of us have to deal with on occasionally a day to day basis in some situations. This leads me to the topic at hand, which is ways to manage your anger. There are a lot of us that are more than capable of expressing our anger but how can we control our anger and not let it control us? These are serious questions that are often expressed by people who really feel like they don’t have control over themselves and their anger.

In general anger can be expressed and displayed in many different manifestations or ways dependent upon the individual. Some of us feel a need to express anger as a release through physical exercise, or by another physical means. Others keep anger buried and let it eat us from the inside. While the rest of us express anger through conversation with someone or maybe even out loud to ourselves.

Dealing with this anger is usually where the issues lie. How exactly do we deal with them in a constructive manner and not a deconstructive manner? Some of us are much better at doing this than others. There are situations that need to be talked about in order to feel better about them and there are abusive ways to deal with anger as well.

There are definitely things that you can do to help with controlling your anger and the means in which you express it. First of all if you think that you have an anger issue that you can’t easily manage then it is definitely recommended to seek counseling. Counseling should never be looked at as a bad option if you think that it is in fact good for you. In situations where you may be unsure you could even ask a close loved one whether or not they think counseling may help you.

We have talked about several things and ways to manage your anger. Hopefully this has proven helpful and you can take the necessary steps forward.

Sure, you get angry. Maybe your anger is occasional. Or maybe you're angry almost all the time.

The good news is, it’s not your fault that your anger surfaces. It's all those other people and things around you! You know, the ones who deliberately drive slowly in front of you. The people in line who spend forever getting the right change out of their purse. Your boss at work who always gives you the hardest jobs with the shortest deadlines. It doesn't matter why you've become angry. It’s what to do to get rid of your anger or at least manage your anger that counts.

So what can you do to manage your anger?

1 – Count to ten. Slowly.

Sure, your mother probably told you to do this when you were child. And you’re not a child any more. Want to know a secret? It works just as well now (maybe even better) than it did when you were younger. If it helps, swear under your breath with each number you count. When you count to 10, make sure you count slowly. It isn't a race. Time your breaths to coincide with your counting and make each breath long and deep. Exactly the same when you exhale your breath.

2 - Breathe in deeply.

Ideally, more than just one. Five or more long, deep breaths will go a long way to managing your anger. Give it a go now, while you're calm and collected. Breathe in. Slowly. Pay attention to the air as it starts to fill your lungs. Then hold your breath for a second or so. Then slowly exhale, again noticing how the air feels as it leaves you. See your anger leave your body on the crest of this air and watch it dissipate into thin air.

3 - Talk about your angry feelings.

Maybe with your shrink. Or - and this is cheaper - with a friend or work colleague you can trust. Use this talking to express your thoughts. But probably not screaming at the top of your voice. Quite often your anger is caused by the straw that broke the camel’s back and can be triggered by something relatively trivial. Talking about it and maybe not taking yourself too seriously in the process can be a great way to diffuse the anger.

4 - Award yourself some relaxation time.

Anger often goes hand in hand with stress. Relaxation is a fantastic way to relieve your stress. In turn, that will begin to calm your angry feelings. Or at least reduce the amount of time that you're feeling angry. Relaxation (a lost art in our modern society) takes many different forms. Choose one that's best for you. Whether it's a walk in the park. Or a long soak in the bath. Or listen to a specially designed relaxation MP3 that you've found on the internet.

5 - Use hypnosis for anger management.

Hypnosis is an easy way to reduce your anger. It works with you to help change how you react to situations that would have previously made you angry. It's really cheap and with today's internet downloads completely discrete. Check out this hypnosis anger management track for more information.