Many questions for your personal development…

Sometimes, it’s best to ask yourself why you want to utilize personal development techniques to become popular in the first place. Why do you want to become popular? Is there someone or something in particular that you want to impress? If you can ask yourself the hard questions (and answer them honestly) about what you want and why, then you are ready for your next step.

Try mind mapping a personal mission statement to help you design and achieve your ideal life. When you are uncertain where your life is heading, or when you doubt your own abilities, this mission statement will remind you: who you are, what you are determined to achieve, and what you have already accomplished to date.  See the mind map I created to go with this article.

By building yourself a mission statement, you will then have your own personal plan to keep you on track and answerable to yourself. It’s a significant personal compass, and one that you can carry with you at all times.

Be Comfortable and Confident

One of the first things to remember is that confident body language can often help you be more at ease with yourself and who you are. Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence~Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence}. It’s true, and often stubbornly accepted, that the more satisfied you become with who you are and the feelings that might surround you, the easier it is to make friends.

Your Style and Look

Just as Picasso, Da Vinci, and Rembrandt crafted and molded masterpieces that incorporated themselves, so must your personal image be carved, painted, shaded, and shaped the best way that represents you. Contrary to what most people would believe, constantly switching up the style of your appearance seems rather desperate for popularity, rather than cemented in confidence of one’s self. For example, a nice short hair cut could do wonders for an individual to bring out their eyes, or smile. These enhancements to your facial appearance give you not only a unique style, but a look that best represents you.

Dress with Pride – Clean and Crisp. So, dress like an apple

I remember my elders telling me that an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I wondered to my self several years later, if we’ve discovered this revolutionary information, why don’t we utilize it? Why do we refuse to take action? These questions can only be answered by poor choices in habit. The healthier we feel, the more confident we feel. The better we feel, the better we look. people are attracted to those who look healthy. Having a shower every day will help. Need I mention deodorant, a comb through the hair, and a toothbrush to the teeth will aid in anyone’s quest for popularity? I suppose I just did.

Be Passionate

Throughout the years, America, and many other countries, has created movies that dazzle us and shoots us toward some form of personal development. They wrap us in a choke hold of suspense, or they drown us in admiration for a fictional character’s plights, victories, and lessons learned. One common characteristic each hero in these movies has, is passion. Their passion is the reason our breaths become baited with anticipation of their triumph. Those story bound people have what most viewers feel they lack.

If we focus on the real life characters with passion we see why Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, George Lucas, Michael Jackson, Truman Capote, Fred Astaire, and Princess Diana were so popular. In regards to their passion for what they achieved, they astounded many, and bewildered the rest. Try getting involved in the things you have a strong interest and talent in. The stronger your passion, the greater your spirit will shine, and the more people will flock to you like a shepherd guiding their way.

Hesitate To Shine No More

Your gifts and talents should not be hidden from the world. Don’t be afraid to share your ideas with others. By showing all facets of who you are, your knowledge, and your capacity to learn what you didn’t know, will cause people to forge relationships with you, almost instantly! The more people you expose this talent to, the more a ripple effect of popularity and charm with shine over you. Your name will spread faster. But beware of the vanity, arrogant, boastful side effects that infect most individuals who catch the popularity bug. Be humble, and open to new ideas, new people, and new ways to express your thoughts creatively.

Talk It Up

Make sure to keep talking. You certainly don’t want to become a chatter box that doesn’t know how to be quiet. This should be knowlegeable and reassuring talk. Ensure that as the saying goes – if you are talking make sure you have something useful to say. After all, that is what communication is all about.

Be adventurous, talk to somebody new each day. Then move on and next week try talking to two new people daily. The next week, try to talk to three, etc. Build this gradual climax towards talking more freely, understanding, and popularly chatting with everyone.

Do Something New

Try to venture out into the unknown and familiarize yourself with it. It is often too easy to sit back in our comfort zone. Move out of your comfort zone and trying something new every once in a while is a great way to gain popularity.

Keep in mind that you should not participate in anything solely because you want attention. When you do decide to try something new, make sure you have a genuine interest in doing it and are not just doing it because you should. Its like ensuring you can swim before holding your breath under water.

Oh, and never show off when you do participate in things you’ve never tried. This could be going to a movie, joining a pottery class, taking up a new sport, or doing a course to enhance either your business and or personal life. Make sure it’s around people who enjoy doing the things you haven’t tried, and build a bond with them (even if you’ll never, say, attend an Opera again). This can only help you to become more popular.

Go With the Flow

Do you remember when you where younger and you discovered a talent you had, one that was magically given to you in the blink of an eye, and you happened to master within two to five minutes? But do you remember talking the talent to someone, a teacher, mom, dad, sibling, or grandparent, and having your talent completely flop and not work. “I did it so many times before,” you’d muffle through embarrassed eyes. Don’t be embarrassed, because it has happened to all of us at some point. Our momentary talent show is ruined, because we are thinking about it too hard. We concentrate so hard on getting it right and not messing up that we end up doing just that.

Just like in the analogy used in the previous paragraph, so must you relate it to the world of popularity? The key to being popular is actually not trying to fit in with everyone, but being yourself, while at the same time embracing new ideas, cultures, races, styles, and entertainment. Try something at least once, that’s within your moral and ethical boundaries, and if you don’t like it then don’t do it again. The more you are exposed to, the more you understand or have empathy for. The people you meet, and the friends that you make along your way to social stardom will send your spirit soaring through the sky, a shinning star, bright with status, regard, and esteem.

A greeting and gesture of acknowledgement, handshakes provide important clues about~an insight into} the other person. Lots of us use them everyday~They are used by us on a daily basis} so beneficial to~you should} take the time to understand how to perform and analyze them.

When you {shake hands, take hold of the other person’s hand firmly~You should take hold of the other person’s hand firmly when shaking hands with them}. The {power of your grip~How strong your grip is} communicate how confident you are}~communicates your level of confidence}. Establish eye contact but keep an arm’s distance away~Keep an arm’s distance away but establish eye contact}. 2 or 3 times~After two or three shakes of their hand}, pause briefly, then drop the hand. Use your smile, eyes and tone of voice to communicate a positive image of yourself~Channel a positive message through the use of your eyes, tone of voice and smile}. a perfect handshake but you should be aware of some variations~However, there are some variations on this example of {an ideal handshake~standard handshake}} in use by others.

The Aggressive Shake. There’s a crush of your fingers plus an exagerrated up and down movement whilst you’re shaking hands. They’re sending a message that they believe or know that they are stronger than you and that they are going to control this situation. Those that shake like this desire others to see them as confident but they normally come across as aggressive.

The Trust Me Shake. The person who initiates this is trying to convey signal of control~that they are in control}. They’ll take hold of your right hand with their right and will then position their left hand over the shake like a glove a kind of glove on your hand}. trying to show~They do this to imply} they can be trusted but you’ll probably feel overpowered and uncomfortable~yet instead it results in feeling overpowered and uncomfortable}.

The Limp Shake. This handshake feels as though the other person has no feeling in their handwith the expectation of you doing all the work.~.} People who do this create a poor impression of themselves. It communicates that they aren’t a threat but also that they can’t be counted on.

The Slippery Shake. These people have a dislike for handshakes and hope to finish the experience promptly. take hold of your fingers softly and then suddenly let go, leaving your hand hanging in mid air~You’ll find your hand is left hanging in mid air after they lightly grip it before letting go a second later}. They want to keep you at a distance and likely favor avoidance of all intimacy with others.

The {Body-Basher Shake. The person you’re greeting will seize your hand grip and pull you in to their personal space~and pull you towards them}. Then they may slap their left hand over your wrist, {elbow or shoulder~Their free hand will then likely be slapped over your elbow or shoulder}. Unless you share emotional bonds with the person be suspicious as they’re trying too hard to be your friendprobably aiming to abuse your trust.~.}~}

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