Synonyms for the word ‘changeable’ include: ‘volatile’, ‘uncertain’, ‘unstable, ‘unsettled’. All of those can make us feel ‘vunerable’, ‘unsure’ and / or ‘insecure’.
There is a small corner in all of us that likes to feel secure and safe and change clearly goes against that. However, after change has occurred, we often refer to it as ‘evolution’, ‘progress’, ‘expansion’, ‘growth’ or ‘advancement’, and this throws up a far more positive set of emotions.
So, it appears that it is not change itself which makes us anxious so much as the transition process that it entails. We feel comfortable with the stability of things as they presently are. Now feels safe because we know what to expect; yet our ‘now’ is changing every day.
Perhaps it is not change that we fear, rather it is the loss of control that we associate with change. Change, on whatever level, always carries an element of risk. Sometimes that perceived risk is so big that it keeps us where we are now despite the current discomforts.
At the other end of the scale, there are times when we have probably all been guilty of making changes just for the sake it. We change our hair color, we change the layout of our bedroom, we may even change jobs.
Why do we do that? We do it to distract ourselves from making the changes in our life that really matter. Deep down, it might be our choice of career which is the cause of our unhappiness, but we will change our hair color ‘just to cheer ourselves up’, because that is an ‘easy change’.
Seeing as change can not be avoided, only delayed, why not embrace it? Use it as an opportunity to evaluate what is going right or wrong, and to get yourself back on track and focused. Use it as your master key to success. That’s what successful people do, so why not you too?
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This article was edited and distributed by Mark Walters on behalf of Mandy Swift, who was the original author. Find Out More : Secrets Of Success
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