You know you want to ask her out and yet you stumble and fumble about like you don’t have a thing to say. She’s a little different, full of flair and personality, and you think you’re intimidated by that. Asking her out is like asking you to climb Mount Olympus in your flip flops.
You have been noticing all the little details about her, and you know that you want to make your move. She said the other day within you earshot that she was getting a tattoo. You almost fell over when she stated where she was getting it. Her used cameras are her passion, as she wants to be a great photographer someday. You’ve noticed that she slings her laptop bag over her left shoulder every single time. You notice everything.
What if you asked her out and she said no? More importantly, what if she said yes? Would you be able to talk to her about anything, especially if you keep thinking about the mystery tattoo? This has been pretty rough on you. You feel tormented.
Relax. She may or may not be interested in trying you on for size, but she isn’t out to ruin your life. This is something everyone goes through and every does actually get through. It’s not easy the first time, but it’s definitely something you can handle.
Maybe if you took the time you spent practicing talking to her in front of the mirror and actually wrote down a few sentences you would have something to memorize to make the process much easier. Maybe if you just got over yourself and asked her you would feel better, even if she said no.
Nothing terrible is going to happen to you if you try and you can’t quite get it right. It doesn’t mean anything about you and it doesn’t mean you’re doomed to this state that you’re in right now for the rest of your life. What it means is that you haven’t remembered that she is as human as everyone else.
Once you gain a little confidence, find a way to open that door to get you talking, and ask her out you will have gained something wonderful and irreplaceable. You will have gained confidence. And confidence is always quite sexy.
